Ouch!

Denying the obvious to not hurt someones feelings, hurts a lot more :(

Labels: Communication, Economics, Humor, Life

My first blog post...

I recently found this written on a piece of paper. I can't remember when or why I wrote it. Must have had an interesting meeting with someone for sure ;) Read on...


Writing a blog can be a difficult exercise, especially when you sit down to write your first article and really want to make a good impression.
There are times, when after meeting someone, you feel as if you very extremely vociferous, and don’t even remember the other person speaking. I personally feel like a complete doof at such times. Unfortunately, I completely fail to check myself when I’m actually in action, blabbering away. Its only when you are departing and think of something nice to say, “It was nice talking to you”.. maybe.. Hardly. I was talking to my self all the time, oh no, I didn’t let him/her speak at all. Yes, this is the time it sets in. You didn’t let them speak. So now I slip into self evaluation mode.
I frantically try to recall the entire meeting, scouring my 4 bit memory for traces of what they may have said, and strangely, somehow, when in this mode, your memory will almost always fail you. So now you start thinking of plausible explanations for having spoken as much as you have.
Is it fair to assume that they were so interested that they did not want to interrupt, or were they thinking.. God this guy is so vain, he just cant stop talking..

Labels: Communication, Life, People, Thought

Wrong chat window?

Chats can be confusing. The inherent delay in the messages, and the inability of two people to keep their thoughts in sync while trying to communicate through texts, makes chats confusing at times. We all often find ourselves in a situation where we have no idea about what is being said in the chat window.

Sometimes, this isn't because of the reasons I gave, but because the person at the other end entered some text into the wrong chat window. Mostly, this just confuses people, unless, someone puts their foot in their mouth and drools lovingly in the wrong chat window while chatting with their better half. This is much more interesting! I agree that a singular instance of this kind does not qualify for a blog post, but then, if the girl and her boyfriend both manage this feat within a short period it definitely does!

Act 1, March 16th 2007:

11:29 PM A: mmmmmmmuah

11:30 PM mistake!

not for you

11:34 PM its so embarrasing

me: this is going on my blog!

A: nooooooooo

me: :D

11:35 PM A: thank god atleast it wasnt someone else frm your home

17 minutes

11:53 PM A: vicky blog to [nai] likh raha na?

Now, This was a genuine flaw, her boyfriend being my namesake, its not the first time she made the mistake. I had no intentions of blogging this, but then yesterday night, this happened....

Act 2, March 30th 2007:

VSA: Bitch
Vicky: ?
VSA: Oops sorry wrong window..
VSA: What are you doing anyway?
Vicky: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Vicky: my blog post is complete.. thanks!

Sorry guys, but I just could NOT resist this! I just wonder if VSA mistook me for A or someone else :D.

Labels: Communication, Life

Sanity is not statistical

There will be very few people you will ever meet in your life, who will be able to double guess your thoughts consistently and accurately. They will be able to retrace your thoughts right from inception to their logical conclusion through a long chain of thoughts, without a weak link. These will be the thoughts that you always thought were unique to you, and made you unique.

It may make you feel a little eerie at first, and you may test the person by repeatedly stopping short of completing your sentences, and yet, when the person will be able to pinpoint what you had in mind, over and over again, there will come a stage, when you will truly believe, that the person does really think the same way you do. And if you are one to believe that sanity is statistical you will probably revel at the existence of such a person.

Why am I saying all this? Yes, because I know someone who can think just like me, and believe me, I did the testing part too, and I did it to my hearts content. I lived in the same dream world, regarding myself as unique as my DNA and my fingerprint, and yet, I was wrong. So what difference does it make to me if someone can think the way I do? Big deal..

Can it help me?

If I were to really think that exceeding myself would entail breaking away from the ordinary, and doing something uncharacteristic, I guess this would then be a potential goldmine. I have a mirror image of myself, a flesh and blood me in front of my eyes, and all I need to do in order to be different, is to prevent this person from being able to guess what I would do next. Has some profound implications. Think about it. You have a chance to bluff yourself for the first time.

But then, being the cliched different, would eventually mean that I was trying to be someone I am not. So even though it presents an opportunity for me to break out of my shell, I'd really rather be myself than try too hard.

All I do actually want to say is that it's a really nice feeling to know someone who understands exactly the way you feel, why you feel the way you do, and can empathize with you, without giving you that sickly sweet impression.

It also gives you am out of body look at yourself, and opportunity to analyze yourself in an unbiased manner, because you're not really analyzing yourself, while you are..

PS. if you think that this post contradicts the previous one, think again.

Labels: Communication, Friendship

Human Communication

Humans are an inferior race incapable of meaningful communication.

Remember the scene for "Independence Day", where the creepy alien is able to communicate with the President, and convey its thoughts in their entirety? Are we as humans ever able to achieve this?

If I tell you that I enjoy drinking black coffee, can I transmit the sensation i get when the hot dense bitter liquid flows down my throat, or can I transmit the the way I feel, or replicate the electrical impulses darting around in my gray cells, in yours? All I can do is tell you that I like coffee, and the rest is open to your interpretation.

What is at fault here? The language? You might argue that the language does not constitute communication. Well, then I'll put it this way. Imagine I pick up a cup of espresso with a gleam in my eyes. I then take a little swig and close my eyes with pleasure, my body language or my facial expressions not betraying my enjoyment even for a moment. Then I tell you,

"I loaave coffee"

Was that purport better? Could you taste it, or feel the way I do?

We often trivialize this lack of capability by saying that people who don't communicate well are not on the same frequency, or by some other similar cliche. On the other hand, if the thought process of two people is remotely similar, they seem to communicate well, and are

"on the same frequency"

or

"hit it off.."

We simply lack the ability to make people feel the way we do with our limited communication abilities, and we rely on sheer chance for finding congenial people, for we find it easier to communicate with them, and it pleasures our senses to know that the understand us, without our explicitly stating everything. These people can empathize because they are congenial, and not because you were able to convey your feelings.

So, can I ever make You feel the way I do Internally, rather than just telling you how I feel?

Humans are an inferior race incapable of meaningful communication.

Labels: Communication, Thought